Unlock Your Happiness Series
Interviewing experts in their field to find out from them what makes them happy. The podcast will be multi faceted talking about their personal and professional life and the journey they have taken whilst underpinning hot they have created happiness from within.
Sharing tips, techniques and tools to help each listener Unlock Their Happiness.
Unlock Your Happiness Series
Episode 19: Alex King- Weight Lifting Saved My Life: How Movement Transformed My Mental Health
What if the pathway to happiness begins with a simple question: "What are you grateful for?" In this deeply moving episode, mindset coach and personal trainer Alex King takes us through her transformative journey from teenage depression to vibrant authenticity.
Alex shares the raw reality of her mental health struggles, describing how at fifteen she began experiencing a heavy cloud of depression that followed her for years. After trying medication that left her feeling completely numb, Alex found herself at university, restricting food and over-exercising in a desperate attempt to control something in her life. When her body finally broke down, forcing her to return home, she encountered the life coach who would change everything.
Through candid conversation, Alex reveals how the deceptively simple practice of daily gratitude gradually shifted her entire perspective, training her mind to notice positives rather than dwelling on negatives. Meanwhile, a friend's intervention introducing her to weightlifting became her physical salvation, teaching her to nourish and strengthen her body rather than punish it.
Today, Alex combines mindset coaching with physical training, helping women transform their relationship with themselves through both mental and physical approaches. Her work focuses on moving people away from negative "away from" goals (like "I want to lose weight") toward positive "toward" goals that create genuine motivation and lasting change.
Whether you're struggling with mental health challenges or simply feeling stuck in negative thought patterns, Alex offers practical wisdom that can shift your perspective. Her powerful advice to regularly ask yourself "What do I want?" and practice deeper gratitude provides immediate tools for anyone seeking more authentic happiness.
Ready to transform your relationship with yourself? Connect with Alex on Instagram @alexkingmindsetcoach and discover how shifting your mindset might just change everything.
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Hello and welcome. To Unlock your Happiness series, I'm here today with the wonderful, wonderful, wonderful. I love her so much. Alex King. Alex, hello, and how are you? Hello, I'm really good, thank you, how are you? I'm good, I'm good, excited to hear your story. So let's kick off a bit straight away. Who are you and?
Speaker 2:what do you do? The ultimate question. So I'm Alex. I am a mindset coach, a personal trainer, and I host monthly women's circles. I've recently transitioned from solely doing the mindset work into something that's always been a passion of mine, which is moving your body to love and enjoy it and get really, really strong, and I'm in a process of learning how they'll work together yeah because, whilst I love the mindset stuff and the results are insane, I felt like there was something missing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and honestly, I just live in my best life getting to getting women in the gym and men and getting them confident on the weights that maybe seem like super intimidating. You know, when you walk into a gym and you just go, oh my God, there's so much stuff Like me and there's so many people yes, that is me.
Speaker 2:I literally go to the gym for the classes and not for the gym because I literally look at the machines and go okay, I reckon, if they did a poll and actually sort of got some metrics for how many people go into the gym, maybe go on the same three pieces of equipment every single week and only do the classes because it's so.
Speaker 1:It's led by someone, isn't it? So you don't feel like someone's looking at you going. What are they doing with that machine? Yeah?
Speaker 2:there's no emotion in it is there, is there in a class, you turn up, you do your thing and then you go, yeah, whereas sometimes, if you go in the gym, you're like, oh, someone's on that bit of stuff I wanted to use and it's like what else, what else do I do hang around and be like oh, no, no, so you stand away, stand around awkwardly like yeah okay, whereas it should be a playground. That's how I see it. I walk in, I'm like right, what are we playing today?
Speaker 1:you're excited by it, aren't you? I can tell because I've seen your stories and everything like that. But we'll give your bios and stuff at the end. But yes, so how did you get there? Like you are loving life now. Now, I'd imagine you probably weren't at some point and something's transformed you to get you there. So what? What's your story? What happened?
Speaker 2:we can go as far back as you want from birth, or we can just start about last week, wherever you feel comfortable. It's going to be weird, because when I speak about it now, I'm almost dissociated with it. It feels like it's a completely different person.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So I'll try and be succinct, succinct, succinct, I'll try and keep it to a minimum. Succinct, succinct, I'll try and keep it to a minimum. So probably when I was about 15, I started feeling a bit different, is probably the word. What I now know was depression.
Speaker 2:Oh wow, yeah, really bad. And then, without getting too into it, I'd wake up every morning and I'd have five seconds of like, okay, let's go. And then it was like this big cloud just sort of descended around me and I could just feel myself withdrawing. But I was 15 and I didn't have a clue what that was, what it meant. No one was probably talking about it at the time either.
Speaker 2:No, it was just weird and I know my parents knew something was different, but they were a bit like, oh, like what do you do? No, and I'm the eldest, so I'm the guinea pig. So I mean I went really long story short. It got to a point where I was taking a lot of drugs to try and negate the feelings.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Medical drugs. Oh yeah, Sorry, I should clarify Definitely medical drugs.
Speaker 2:I tried counseling, I tried the medical drugs, but they ended up making me feel nothing. Yeah, so it was just completely numb. Yeah, so no happiness, no sadness, just nothing. And it was really weird. Yeah, I can only explain it as weird. Um, and then I sort of I was on a long journey. I got to a point where mental and physical really, so my physical, my mental health, was really poor, and then my physical health. Looking back at it now, I wonder if I tried to take control over something that felt so totally out of control.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And I did that through movement and not nourishing my body, so I went from like a really healthy. I've always done sports cricket, netball- like I'll give anything, yeah, yeah it's just innate. And then it got to a point I was at uni and because I felt so out of control and I didn't know what was wrong to be able to tell anyone, and I felt it felt like I was a burden, yeah, so I didn't want to let anyone in imposter syndrome, I guess because on the outside you'd have thought I was really happy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, never didn't have a smile on my face the masked version of you, yeah yeah, so much.
Speaker 2:but it got to a point where I was barely eating and the food that I was eating was. People thought it was IBS, but I was so stressed around food that it was just my stomach was like, well, I can't deal with this, yeah. So it got to the point where I was eating such a little array of food and I was training at least once a day heavily intense cardio, Thai boxing, running, really intense, intense yeah, and my body just broke.
Speaker 1:I was going to say you was exhausting your body just with that exercise, so to not then fuel. It is almost like you're putting yourself into your own grave to a degree by doing that.
Speaker 2:Yeah because, you like, we're all linked mind, body, soul, but everyone tries to treat everything separately, so yeah. I was getting the treatment supposedly for my brain. Um, like I tried, the drug, the, the drugs yeah, the drugs. You know what I mean so, like the antidepressants, I tried counseling, but I felt like that was just unpacking everything yeah, and then giving you any direction? No, like, no tools, and then you're just left with this stuff that you've unearthed for another week. Yeah, and I was like, no, I'm just going to not do that anymore.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I ended up taking myself off the. Why can I not think of another word apart?
Speaker 1:from drugs Antidepressants. Thank you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I just took myself off those because I couldn't deal with feeling nothing. Yeah, and then when my body broke, someone just came and picked me up from uni in Cardiff and was like we're just going to, I just needed to be home.
Speaker 1:Was you ill? Did you become like physically ill when you was like?
Speaker 2:I need to go home because I really don't feel well. I was scared of what was going on in my head. Yeah, I didn't think I'd get emotional, but that's really naive.
Speaker 2:It's not naive, it's just you feel comfortable and safe to talk about it and it's important to talk about it it really is because, again, on the outside you never would have known anything was wrong. No, but the suicidal thoughts were so intense and it was weird in a way, because I knew I would never do anything with them. Yeah, but they were just there all the time, yeah, and I was like, right, I just need my safe space. I haven't got any control here. At least I can rest at home.
Speaker 1:It's your safe place to go, isn't it yeah?
Speaker 2:And again, mum and dad didn't know what to do. They were just like we're here for you.
Speaker 1:Just be at home Sometimes that's enough. Yeah, it's just, we're here.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I remember doing nothing for about three weeks and then it's a bit blurry in the middle. But along that journey my mum got talking to a lady who'd seen a life coach and she said what about trying that?
Speaker 1:And I was like whatever.
Speaker 2:What's a life coach? They're going to tell me how to live my life.
Speaker 2:It was very very obviously yeah, very negative mindset place, Very victim mindset, which I didn't realise at the time. Anyway, I started to see this lady and at the very beginning of the work we did together, she said you're going to get really poorly at some point along this. And I, okay, what does that mean? She said well, we don't know, but there will be a pivotal point where your body will have some sort of release. Yeah, it's like, oh, okay, this is intriguing. Fast forward about eight weeks, feeling like a completely different woman, like I'll go into what the big things were that changed. Um, all of a sudden I was in like agony, doubled over, working in London, yeah, um, and I was like I think I need to go and see the doctor. And my boss sort of looked at me like, yeah, yeah, I was like no, I'm in a lot of pain. And he looked again. He was like, okay, so I had an hour and 40 commute on the train to get back, which was excruciating.
Speaker 1:And it turns out my appendix was not in a good way, ready to burst almost.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and then got to the hospital. It was like four days, kneel by mouth. They eventually operated. In a weird twist of fate, it actually wasn't the appendix, it was endometriosis. But again, because the separate parts of the hospital don't talk to each other, they did the operation, took my appendix out and then, right at the very end, when I was about to leave, someone said there's a lot of scar tissue in there. But they didn't do anything with it.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So it was like another five years until endometriosis got diagnosed Lovely.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so the life coaching literally twisted my life on its head and the first thing I learned was what are you grateful for? So the life coaching literally twisted my life on its head and the first thing I learned was what are you grateful for? I was like well, what do you mean? My life's in the pan, I don't want to get up in the morning, I've got my body's broken and and and. And. She said just do it once a day. Simply write down with pen and paper three things that you're grateful for, and.
Speaker 2:I was like all right.
Speaker 1:It's so simple but so effective. So simple, yeah.
Speaker 2:And at the beginning it would have been things like well, I got out of bed.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Might have made myself a meal. Yeah, might have got dressed, which it's little things we take for granted so much so. But when you're in a place where you don't want to be here and you can't see a way out, it was huge and I was like, well, this is weird. But fast forward about two weeks, I think, and I was just seeing more yeah and more and more, and it was like a little switch happened yeah yeah, and rather than thinking about everything that, was wrong, yeah, law of attraction, gratitude, like whatever you want to call it.
Speaker 2:The more you look for the positives, the more you'll find. And like now you asked me that and like sometimes, when I'm with clients, they're like well, what are you grateful for?
Speaker 1:yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm like, oh, how long have you got, because I'll just stand, I'll sit there and I'll literally tick off the most minute thing. Yeah, um. And they're like, oh, are you, are you really? I'm like, yeah, yeah. And when I met my husband, um, he said I knew that something had happened with you, because no one is that happy, so he knew that something must have happened for me to come out the other side, because I've just got this like sparkly, yeah excitement.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm just excited for stuff, and it's like because you appreciate the basics, so everything above the basics is exciting, right, instead of us going, oh, we haven't got this yet. Yes, it's almost like I've got up and I've breathed today and I've seen the sun and the flowers are blooming and it's something that's so simple, that happens without you even realizing. Yeah, that everything on top of that like seeing me, me, of course makes you all excited.
Speaker 2:I get excited every time I see you. Yeah, 100%. And I think when I hear it's hard you probably know. When you've got a coaching background, when you're speaking to people in everyday life, you're like oh, I wish I could tweak that for you, but it's not your place at the time.
Speaker 1:You've just got to sow seeds.
Speaker 2:That's what I've learned is you've just got to drop little seeds.
Speaker 1:A bit like breadcrumbs on the trail, isn't it? And then people kind of pick up the breadcrumbs when they're ready and if they want to. You can only push people so far as you've got to attract them instead of push them and all that type of stuff.
Speaker 2:Because they are all on their own journeys. And if someone had said to me oh, you should be grateful for what you have, which my mum has said to me a few times. She's like could you not see what you had? And I was like at the time no, I couldn't, because I was in such a downward spiral, didn't feel like. I was in control and just that switch to very, very gently. What are you grateful for? Then it spiraled.
Speaker 1:And now you've got different glasses on. They say you start to learn by putting different glasses on, don't you? Different versions of you?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So how have you got to the version you are today? So I know you do NLP and lots of other stuff that you've grown and developed yourself. So how have you got to the version of you now other stuff that you've grown and developed yourself.
Speaker 2:So how have you got to the version of you now. Oh, um, first thing that really happened was that, rather than doing loads of cardio, one of the boys that I was living with at uni at the time, he was like come on, we're going to the gym. And I was like what do you mean? Like I'm, you know, I always go to the gym. He's like no, no, we're doing some weights. Yeah, okay, anyway, full of. We walked into the weights. I was like, oh, okay, anyway, full of. We walked into the weights room. It was a real spit and sawdust gym, just get in, there, get on with it. But because I was with him, I felt safe.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And he showed me squats, dumbbells, barbells, all of the lifts, the main lifts, and he said right now you need to eat because otherwise we will not be able to do this again. I was like what do you mean? He said well, if you're not fueling yourself, you're going to tear all those muscles apart and you're going to just ache for weeks, all the time, yeah.
Speaker 2:And I did ache for about a week. Yeah, and I look back now and it was a bit of an intervention, because they'd seen me go from this bright, bubbly person to this shell of a woman who just didn't want to be around anyone yeah so that was one part of it. So weightlifting saved my life, I think to a certain extent. The uh life coach that I saw she used a little bit of NLP, um, but at that time I wasn't ready to really take it on like what it was yeah, um, it's a bit of a level too far and and I think that's the thing sometimes, isn't it is?
Speaker 1:we all want to try and do all of it, but actually you need to take baby steps to allow your body to accept it and to allow your mind to grow with it.
Speaker 2:It's a bit like habits. Same with habit stacking, isn't it?
Speaker 1:It's like you can't just focus on losing two stone. You have to do the daily walk or the daily wake up or the sleep, and you build the habits and then eventually the results will come without you even having to have the goal.
Speaker 2:And I think as well I'm going to sound really old saying this, but nowadays we're all so used to such a quick fix, like if you want something, you order it on Amazon and it comes tomorrow. You want a TV programme? You stream it straight away. You want food? You just order it from somewhere and it arrives at your doorstep.
Speaker 1:You haven't got to do anything.
Speaker 2:So I think when people perhaps, if they are in a negative headspace or, yes, they want to lose that two stone, they're so focused on the end that they forget there's kind of a journey to go there.
Speaker 1:You've got to embrace the journey, whether it's self-development or mindset or physical change.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we'll come back to that, because I think it's so important to strip back and even unlearn a lot of the stuff we think, which is where you're going with your offerings now, isn't?
Speaker 1:it, because it's actually stripping back lots of elements, not just one or the other it's actually, because it's all intertwined, isn't it?
Speaker 1:It's the same as work and life is intertwined. You have to enjoy the job that you're doing for your life to be happy. You can't have it all, obviously, but you can have awareness of okay, I love what I do and my home life's really great and I look after myself, and it all becomes a ripple effect. It's the same. If you hate your job and you hate your relationship, then everything's shit. It's the same. If you hate your job and you hate your relationship, then everything's shit. It's the same thing, isn't it? It's just you're creating that motion and it's your decision whether it's a positive or a negative motion, but we feel comfortable in the negative than we do in the positive, which is the hardest part, isn't it?
Speaker 1:Yeah?
Speaker 2:because I say that for every person that's going through something your comfort zone is just that, isn't it. It's comfortable, I know it. So, whether that's positive or negative, yeah, I feel like everyone has to have or will come across their own breaking point.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Breaking may be a bit of a heavy word, yeah, but like you just mentioned, if you're in a rubbish relationship, you're not feeling good at work. Actually, everything that's in common in that scenario is how you view yourself.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because the majority I'd probably say 70% of the women I work with and I will never market this change their job once we work together. Yeah, Because you go from a place of maybe not feeling good enough in yourself. Yeah, Because it all stems from you, right, 100% go from a place of maybe not feeling good enough in yourself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because it all stems from you, right, you are the one that sets the bar of standards for yourself to give and to receive. So if you're not feeling good in yourself, you will accept a bad relationship or you will accept the level of behavior that comes towards you. Yeah, when you get to a place where you know I'm absolutely worthy.
Speaker 1:I am good enough and I really love myself.
Speaker 2:You won't even entertain someone speaking down to you or treating you in the way that you wouldn't dream of treating anyone else.
Speaker 2:So, when I work with clients specifically on the mindset stuff. My program is called Authentically you, because we strip it all back and I feel like a lot of people go into the past a lot. We've done that. We're not there anymore. You are here right now and we can look towards the future. Yeah, so who you are now will create your future. Whether you take a year, a month, a week, who you are creates that, and it's like creating timelines, I guess. Yeah, and there's always different timelines, I guess.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and there's always different layers of you, isn't there Like we've? Obviously, we're both mums as well. So you have this journey of the teenage years and then, like in the 20s and almost like, I suppose, every time there's a journey or pivot change, you have a child.
Speaker 2:there's a different identity of you isn't?
Speaker 1:there or you change job. There's another identity. So many hats child, there's a different identity of you isn't there, or you change job, there's another identity, and I think it's like embracing that versions of you each time instead of, like you said, looking back like how many times do you hear people go? Oh, I wish, I wish I was as skinny as was I was when I looked in that photo last time.
Speaker 2:Or 10 years ago, when I thought I was really fat or whatever it is and you just kind of go.
Speaker 1:If you just accept that there's going to be loads of versions of you and you're just embracing these different layers of you each time you're, you're moving with wisdom and experience, but becoming different versions, you can't be like, oh I wish I knew that back then, but you didn't. So there's no point in looking back to how it was when you can focus on how can I be in the future and how do I get there, and and instead of looking at it as a big thing, it's like a day by day I'm becoming that future version of what I want to be.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think as well we sort of centre on I don't know if it's because of the people I work with or just how my brain works A lot of people are always focused on what they don't have. Yeah, so we've got towards goals and away from goals so away from goals is. I don't like that. I don't want to be in that pain. Therefore, I'm going to get away from it yeah or you've got towards goals.
Speaker 2:Say, take weight, for example, because everyone can relate to it. I want to lose weight. You actually don't. Because those scales, no one sees them as a tool. They see them as an emotional connector. Yeah, like just torment, as you stand on the scales.
Speaker 1:Let's ruin our day, right? Yeah, or it can make my day, depending on what the result says.
Speaker 2:Exactly yeah whereas the reality is it doesn't mean anything. It is simply a number, so um. The towards goal would be, so a client's emotive feeling almost well, like, what do you actually want?
Speaker 2:yeah, I want to feel really good in my jeans when they do up first time. Yeah, and I put my belt on and it's on the notch that I like it to be on. Or I put a dress on and do you know what? My arms look really great. Yeah, because all that work in the gym is really showing off. Yeah, it's got nothing to do with weight. Be really hungry, because I know my metabolism is really working, and even just the feel of saying those things out loud how much better does it say, does it feel inside to be like these are the things I want. Not only are you going to attract more of that, because you're aware of it, when it starts happening, you're like oh, I'm amazing, versus, I want to lose weight.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and also you're like I find this, I've connected. Now when I do, if I don't go to the gym, I can feel it in my mind and my body.
Speaker 1:So it's almost like it's a two-way streak now, whereas before it would be like oh, you're going to the gym for punishment or because you have to, and all that type of stuff, whereas now I'm like, if I don't go for a week, I can feel it in my body, like I can feel just getting more lethargic and I just kind of I almost start to self-sabotage myself because I've not been, but not because I'm going. Oh, you're shit. It's just like I can feel myself becoming a lesser version of myself, because it gives me confidence, it makes me feel good and the endorphins and the dopamine hit and all of that type of stuff.
Speaker 2:Don and the dopamine hit and all of that type of stuff.
Speaker 1:Don't get me wrong. When I get there I don't want to do it Like I know it's good for two things, but it's weird Once you start relating it to. I'm like my mindset needs this. I need to go to the gym because my mindset needs this, because I'm starting to lose motivation or I'm losing focus or I'm not feeling like I want to do stuff. The gym makes me want to do it. It's really weird how you connect it, but it makes such a difference. It really does. Whereas before I'd be like, oh, I've got to go to the gym three times a week because that's what we get told to do and all that type of stuff, whereas I'm like I want to do more of it because, because you know how it makes you feel yeah, yeah, and it's that you haven't yet found the modality where you're like, yes, like this is why I want to do it this feels really good whilst I'm doing it and then the post-workout endorphins are like flying around.
Speaker 2:Yeah, interesting thing about self-sabotage I've got a theory on it that has been born from the NLP stuff that I do. So I have a technique called parts integration and the theory behind it is that there isn't actually a thing. Self-sabotage isn't what we think it is. So we think that we've got like an angel and a devil. Yeah, the devil on one side's like no, don't do that. Like why are you going to do that? This is what happened last time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, negative, negative stuff, yeah, yeah and then, on the flip side, take weight loss, for example, it's just an easy one, or?
Speaker 1:everyone can relate to that yeah.
Speaker 2:so I want to lose weight. Because you'll have all these reasons and the motivation you think you have, I want the scale weight to go down, I want to lose a dress size or whatever that may be. And then on the other side, you're like, well, I'm going to have to give up this, this and this which is my comfort zone.
Speaker 2:If you were to zoom all the way out, both sides are actually one of the whole. So the underlying highest positive intention for each of those, what we call the sides like the angel and the devil it will be things like safety, loving yourself, and both sides want the same things.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:But because we've.
Speaker 1:Societally connected them differently.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So the technique that I use brings about what the highest positive intention actually is. And then you get unconsciously which is kind of hard to explain unconsciously. I will help you, your unconscious mind and your body see that they're on the same side and get them to work together.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So that there's no self-sabotage. You just realize that it's all for the same purpose.
Speaker 1:Yeah and it sort of gets rid of the angel and the devil.
Speaker 2:Yeah, because you want the same outcome. It would just go um, go about it slightly differently. So, going back to the away from and the towards goals, if you're constantly saying I want to lose weight, your unconscious mind actually can't process a negative. Yeah, I'll say that again because it's hard to understand. Yeah, you can't process a negative. So if I said to you don't think about a pink donkey, yeah, what's the first thing you think about? A pink donkey, right? Yeah, because we don't hear the don't.
Speaker 1:So when people say stop smoking, all they are thinking about is smoking it's the classic, like you need to drop your calories, so then you want to lose the calories.
Speaker 2:Yeah, if someone says you don't eat chocolate, what's the first? You're gonna be like, no, and you're gonna want to buy some chocolate, yeah, so I've got. I'm against away from goals and I would much rather, yeah, position it as a well. What are you going to gain? So not only are you thinking in the positive yeah, and thinking about what you want, so it becomes more compelling. Likewise, with the gratitude, the more you think about what you want, the more you're aware of it.
Speaker 2:Yeah when those opportunities, yeah, the opportunities arise you're like oh, I know that's going to feel really good, let me do that, whereas if you're thinking, well, I can't eat chocolate, I need to have less calories and I want to lose weight. Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's all negative. Yeah, yeah. So you just think about it all the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all the positive things, yeah, I love that, my God.
Speaker 1:We could talk for hours we literally could, and I'm kind of looking at the time going quick, I've got to get everything in. What's next? So what would you say is a top tip for listeners that are probably going to be relating to this story of like? I've been on this journey to a degree as well. I think all women do go through this kind of transition of mindset change and identity shift, and highs and lows, shift and highs and lows. What could the listeners do today that could change the way they think? It's not going to happen overnight, but like one tip that would help them. Do you think we've obviously spoken about the three things that you're grateful for, so that's a great start that's a tiny snippet of it as well.
Speaker 2:I don't think people know how to do gratitude properly that's like real basic, but, yeah, 100%. If you're in a negative mindset, then 100%. Start with three simple things you're grateful for and then to go that little bit deeper, I'd say, ask yourself why you're grateful for that thing and then ask yourself that again, so that will take you down um further, past the like facade of well, I'm grateful for my home.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like the vanity metrics kind of thing. So what about?
Speaker 2:your home are you grateful for? Oh, I really love my bedroom. Okay, what about your bedroom makes you grateful? Oh, I feel really safe. I'm nice and cosy. So it evokes feelings about what you're grateful for, because I could say oh, my home, my friends and my kids. Sorry, husband, but it doesn't really evoke a feeling yeah, once you can get down a little bit deeper. So gratitude is definitely one, and also, I'd say that, towards girls. How often do you ask yourself?
Speaker 1:what do I want? What are you working towards?
Speaker 2:What do I want? We're so stuck on autopilot all the time, Life goes fast.
Speaker 1:We're all so busy, aren't we? So fast? Yeah.
Speaker 2:So like in my women's circles tomorrow, which will be way past when this comes out so the spring equinox was yesterday, so everyone tends to set New Year's resolutions in the dead of winter, when it's dark and miserable.
Speaker 1:We all want to hibernate and don't want to do it.
Speaker 2:So now is the proper time of year to start um setting goals, because there's so much hope in the air.
Speaker 1:The nights are getting lighter, yeah, the things are literally blossoming right now yeah, um, and us as humans, because we're part of nature, but we forget, yeah, we do. We just kind of think that we're these indispensable things that just rule the world. Yeah yeah.
Speaker 2:So ask yourself what do I want? And quite quickly you'll be like well, it's taking too long. I I need, you'll be what's? You'll get distracted. Yeah, because we don't often sit in that question yeah if you can allow yourself to put your phone down, turn the telly off, even go for a walk, maybe and say what do I want? And just let ideas bubble away, because it's going to grow, you'll start. It'll start trickling out.
Speaker 1:It starts coming out, yeah, and then your intuition and your consciousness sees it, doesn't it? Yeah?
Speaker 2:And it will just grow. And then, because you've made yourself aware of it, like I said earlier, if an opportunity then arises, you're like oh well, that plays in really nicely.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I'm going to do that.
Speaker 2:And even if it's outside of your comfort zone, because it's something that you want and you can see yourself there, you'll be more willing to expand that much more to bring it into your reality. So, yeah, gratitude and what do I want?
Speaker 1:Yeah, love that gratitude. And what do I want? Yeah, love that, literally love that. And how can people find you and what you do and all the rest of it? Because I love all your stories and what you get up to, especially when I see women climbing up ropes. How amazing is that Getting to the top and stuff, and I'm just like okay, I will come and see you, Alex.
Speaker 2:So I'm still doing my mindset coaching. Yeah, I am finding a way that it can work together so my inbox is flooded at the moment with people that want to climb ropes and put the play back into working out. Yeah, because I think we've lost that a little bit. Um, so at the moment I'm on Instagram as Alex King Mindset Coach.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 2:And the same on Facebook. Yeah, honestly, just get in touch. I think it's likely that. So I love building communities. Yes, I think female communities are just amazing, yeah, and women coming together and celebrating each other is amazing. So, when thinking about nutrition and mindset, I think there's going to be a membership. I think there's going to be a membership for training programs, for one-to-ones yes, for hot seat coaching. I think that's how it's going to go. Yeah, and I'll be doing one-to-one uh, client work, as always yeah, yeah, amazing.
Speaker 1:Well, thank you for today you smashed the time that's the thing we end up talking and then the time just disappears and my watch has just gone. Stop the talking, stop the talking. She's gotta go um. So then we'll, I'll post all your links and then people can get in contact with you. It's been such a valuable session because I think, actually I, we always do this, even in the calm collective, don't we?
Speaker 2:I have a right intentions.
Speaker 1:Of all these questions I'm going to ask and then it just flows naturally, which is how exactly conversations should be, and I think it's going to be so useful to the listener because they're going to be able to just relate and actually kind of go yeah, actually I need to be working towards not working and no matter where you are.
Speaker 2:You can start at any time. It's not like, if you've got a little inkling, I want to expand and I want to grow. Go with it. Back yourself, set yourself a little promise.
Speaker 1:Yeah, 100%, and I think that's the thing. You start to take baby steps and then, before you know it, you're like investing in different development programs and expanding your knowledge and going into breath work and all this wonderful stuff that you I know you've done as well and, um, it's exciting. Once you start on that kind of journey of looking after yourself, it's amazing what things happen, isn't it so much?
Speaker 2:and you'll find your tribe as well. Yeah, the more aligned you are with what you want, who you want to be. Yeah, these people just pop out people Like me.
Speaker 1:Hi come and see me. So true, yeah, and then now we talk all the time, catch up every month, and I actually love being in your company. It's always such a wonderful time. Thank you so much for being on the podcast, thanks for having me, thank you for listening. We really do appreciate it and send in love and stay happy.